обращаться (обходиться, относиться) с кем-либо хорошо/плохо
19 to arrange with somebody about something
домовитися з ким-небудь про що-небудь
договариваться с кем-то о чем-то; улаживать спор
20 it goes without saying
само собою зрозуміло
само собой разумеется
Read the text and answer the questions given after it.
Have good manners
When you are in a foreign country, don’t forget that your behaviour will be taken as typical of that of your native land. Study and respect local customs. Good manners are sure to be appreciated everywhere, so don’t fail to be polite. Remember what the English say: “Life is short but there is always time for courtesy”.
A real gentleman never forgets to rise when a lady comes up to him and speaks to him. He will never remain seated when a lady is standing. The golden rule of every gentleman is “Ladies first”. Entering or leaving a room with ladies a gentleman shouldn’t rush before them except when he is showing the way. In this case he should apologize by saying, “Excuse my going first. I’ll lead the way”.
To whisper in company is bad manners. If what you wish to say cannot be said aloud, reserve it for a suitable occasion.
No matter where you are, loud laughter and talking are signs of bad manners.
Gentleman, whatever their rank or age, should be introduced to ladies. Young men should be introduced to elderly men. The usual formula to use when introduced is “How do you do”. If you know the person who is being introduced to you, say “We’ve met before”.
Don’t offer to shake hands with a lady. The initiative must always come from her. In England it is not customary to shake hands. Englishmen shake hands when they first meet somebody or when they part for a long time.
It is important that one should be punctual. Coming on time is essential when keeping an appointment whether one is meeting friends for a drink or whether one is having a business talk. If you had an appointment with an Englishman, he would be surprised if you came fifteen minutes before your time and annoyed if you were five minutes late.
When at work, don’t be a “clock-watcher”. It’s also bad manners to keep looking at the watch when in company as if you were impatient for the time to pass.
To be pleasant company be a good listener. Don’t be indifferent or impatient when others are speaking. Interrupting others is a bad habit. If you wish to be popular, avoid talking about yourself and your affairs. Talk to people about what interests them, not about what interests you. To touch upon personal subjects in general conversation is considered to be bad manners. The best topics for light social conversation are art, sports, weather and the hobby of the person you are speaking with.
Talking to others unless they are your intimate friends keep to general subjects and avoid arguing and quarrelling. In parliaments and debating clubs heated argument is welcome. In general everyday conversation it is out of place.
When in company, don’t open a book or a newspaper and begin reading to yourself. If you are tired of the company, leave it, if not, honour it with your attention. It is not a crime to be bored in company, but it is bad manners to show that you are bored. Don’t be a bore yourself.
When you have a story to tell, don’t go into details. Be direct, clear and get to the point at once.
Good manners begin at home. Don’t neglect your relatives and neighbours. If you treat them with respect and consideration, they are sure to appreciate it and give you the same kind of treatment in return. Avoid borrowing things from your neighbours, but if you can’t help it, always return the thing borrowed.
When using a public telephone, keep conversations brief and to the point. If you want a really long talk, it is far better to arrange a meeting with your friend.
There are a number of rules that should be observed by smokers. One mustn’t smoke in a sick room. Good manners forbid smoking by a woman in the street. No one should carry a lighted cigarette when dancing. Before lighting a cigarette one should ask everybody present for permission. It goes without saying that permission should not be refused unless tobacco smoke is really harmful to somebody.
І 1. Why is it necessary to mind one’s behaviour when one is abroad?
2. What is it necessary to do when one is living in a foreign country?
3. Will good manners be appreciated everywhere?
4. How should a gentleman behave with a lady around?
5. When may a gentleman go ahead of a lady?
ІІ 1. What should one remember when introducing people?
2. What is the customary formula to use when introduced?
3. What should you say if you know the person you are being introduced to?
4. What does etiquette say about shaking hands?
5. Do Englishmen shake hands as often as people do on the continent? When do they shake hands?
ІІІ 1. Is it good manners to come late when one has an appointment?
2. What would be the reaction of the Englishman with whom you had an appointment if you came five minutes late?
3. What people are called clock-watchers?
IV 1. How should one behave to be pleasant company?
2. What are the subjects to be avoided?
3. What are the best topics for light social conversation?
4. It is bad manners to read when in company, isn’t it?
5. How should one tell a story not to bore the listeners?
V 1. How should one treat one’s relatives and neighbours?
2. What should one remember when borrowing things?
VI 1. What should one remember when using a public telephone?
2. What rules should smokers observe when at home? When travelling?
Exercise 1. Answer the questions. Give full answers.
1. Do you agree that students of English should study English and American customs as well? Where can one read about English and American customs? Do English and American films help us to know more about the people and their customs? Do you take every chance to see English films?
2. Are you good company? Do you always show an interest in what others may be saying? Do you talk only about your affairs when in company? Are you a good story-teller? Do others listen to you with interest or does everybody get bored when you start telling a story?
3. Do you agree that one should be punctual no matter whether one meets somebody for a business talk or a drink? Are you always punctual? Do you always keep your appointments? What do you feel when the person you have an appointment with keeps you waiting?
4. Are you a clock-watcher? Are you impatient for the time to pass when you are at the lesson?
5. Do all your friends behave properly in public places? Are they always polite and courteous? Do they give up their seats to elderly people and women in the bus and the underground? Do they show respect for their elders? Do you agree that people who have bad manners are very unpleasant to deal with?
6. Do you like to argue? Do you agree that the best way to win an argument is to avoid arguing? Are you patient and tolerant? Do you show appreciation for your opponent’s opinion even if it is different from yours? Can you disagree without being impolite and without hurting the other person? Do you always try to force your way of thinking on others or do you agree that everybody has a right to his own opinion? Are you always frank in your judgement about others? Do you have enough courage to tell a person what you think about him straight to his face?
7. Do you appreciate the little things your people do for you? Are you difficult or easy to live with? Do you insist on watching TV when the rest of the family prefer to have a quiet evening? Do you help your mother with the work about the house? Do you agree that good manners begin at home?
Do you agree?
A man with a smile is always welcome.
Etiquette is little things you do that you don’t want to do.
A neighbour is a person who knows more about your affairs than you do.
The higher the fence, the better the neighbour.
Exercise 2. Finish sentences using a phrase from those given in brackets.
1. Areal gentleman should (shouldn’t) ... (rise when a lady comes up to him; stand when the lady is standing; offer to shake hands with a lady; carry a lighted cigarette when dancing).
2. It is bad manners ... (to whisper in company; to be late for an appointment; to keep looking at the watch when in company; to interrupt others; to speak only about oneself; to touch upon personal subjects in conversation; to show that you are bored; to neglect one’s relatives and neighbours).
3. It is good manners ... (to talk and laugh loudly; to be punctual; to come on time; to talk to people about what interests them; to respect one’s relatives and neighbours; to break the appointment).
4. If you want to be popular you should (shouldn’t) ... (speak about yourself and your affairs; talk to people about what interests them; touch upon personal subjects in conversation; argue and quarrel; show that you are bored).
5. One should avoid ... (talking about oneself and one’s affairs; arguing heatedly and quarrelling in public; being a bore; going into details when telling a story; borrowing things from one’s neighbours; using a public telephone for a long time).